tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post418200422869687858..comments2023-10-20T01:58:56.841-07:00Comments on Living notes from NYC: To do or not to do? Sex ed and what comes with it.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02552248434911566220noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-14440365873371365132013-05-28T21:51:00.869-07:002013-05-28T21:51:00.869-07:00Hi Olya,
I love your blog. I too am a dancer and ...Hi Olya,<br /><br />I love your blog. I too am a dancer and a mom of four. I met my husband while dancing in NYC. Now I teach dance one night a week and take class when I can. I still love dance so much but love being a mom even more! I'm thankful to be able to dance and create while staying home with my children at the same time. I'm thinking that you and I are probably around the same age too. :-)<br /><br />I think it is beautiful what you were taught about sex. It sounds like you are living in Mormon country. The Mormon religion is all law and no Gospel. It's no wonder that so much of what you see and hear is highly legalistic. There's an excellent book by Michael Horton from The White Horse Inn called Christless Christianity. It talks about how moralism is the alternative gospel of the American church. Mormons tend to be morally good people but they have missed Christ. They call themselves Christians but they are not.<br /><br />With that said, I personally believe that parents should be educating their children about sex. There is much being taught in the public schools that promotes promiscuity. Some of these children will never hear that sex is beautiful and sacred. I am thankful for parents that taught me that sex is a beautiful gift from God that is designed for marriage. This is not what I was taught in sex education in the public schools. We were taught how to put a condom on a banana. We were not taught about the importance of waiting until we were old enough to be able to handle the emotions that go along with sex. We were taught about birth control. All of my girlfriends in public school were on birth control and they were all very promiscuous. So there are two sides to every coin. This is why I believe that the public schools should talk about abstinence as well. <br /><br />Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01833223848725914453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-21373703741986522302012-03-25T20:06:31.973-07:002012-03-25T20:06:31.973-07:00thank you so much, Astra! Isn't it great when ...thank you so much, Astra! Isn't it great when you can be free to talk to your mom on any subject? I hope I am cool enough for my children to confide in me with everything and anything. I think sex is essential for a good marriage, and the older I get , the more i think so. It is beautiful and sacred, yes, but it is something that children need to know about too - it won't just dawn unto them :) <br /><br />PS - i absolutely love your beautiful blog, your 101 in 1001 and your dream :) That little chick in your( or your husbands) hand just melted my heart! You are beautiful , and I think that white skin is awesome! I was hiding my legs all last summer under capries, because I thought they were too white for shorts, so i ended up with tan "socks" that are STILL there , almost a year later! This year I'm "shorting" and "spagetti-strapping" , white skin all the way!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02552248434911566220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-72113036408926635642012-03-25T19:59:00.426-07:002012-03-25T19:59:00.426-07:00here you go - that is exactly why I think it is so...here you go - that is exactly why I think it is so important to have proper education AND freedom for teens especially to be able to talk to someone OUTSIDE of their home. Not everyone is lucky to have open-to-talk parents. Wishful thinking doesn't make it be true, right?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02552248434911566220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-50577697056333230392012-03-25T19:57:47.382-07:002012-03-25T19:57:47.382-07:00yes! I hope there are more people like you with go...yes! I hope there are more people like you with good understanding of how important this is!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02552248434911566220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-67535871206227161732012-03-25T14:58:00.304-07:002012-03-25T14:58:00.304-07:00that was really wonderful to read, im really glad ...that was really wonderful to read, im really glad for your children. my mum and your mum handled the sex issue the same and its something that i am so so so grateful for and will do the same for my children. I was such a confident teen, while all my girlfriends were trying things out, getting hurt emotionally and feeling shit about themselves I had the self esteem to know what i deserved and i waited until i found it. sex has always been a positive thing for me and now im married, soon to start my own family, i am so grateful for my wonderful married relationship and i do believe it starts with that talk as a child - where do babies come from!Astrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10254428936578289889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-24685756217465206332012-03-22T14:14:22.108-07:002012-03-22T14:14:22.108-07:00As someone who lives in Utah, I really loved this ...As someone who lives in Utah, I really loved this post! I believe giving children knowledge about, and respect for, their own bodies is never a bad thing.MUGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05918465142353952539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-19803848790613764612012-03-21T10:10:33.904-07:002012-03-21T10:10:33.904-07:00Coming from the background of little or No talks a...Coming from the background of little or No talks about sex in the home I was very grateful at all for the little education and information shared in the schools. The bottom line is this: kids are going to learn about sex, it is completely UNAVOIDABLE in today's society. The question that parents should be asking is whether or not they want the good institutions in society and in the home to reinforce good, responsible and healthy behavior. Teaching about contraception and the options surrounding it does not tell a teen that they need to go and have sex, but it does let them know that if they do engage in it (Which they would choose to do or not to do without any education) they would know that they have ways to protect and prevent unwanted outcomes of that behavior. I am very pro-abstinence when it comes to sex, but I am very realistic in knowing that if there is one thing that drives a teenager to do something is to tell them it is "forbidden" or taboo.Micro Propertieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03808920780388090612noreply@blogger.com