tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post8609109870077982373..comments2023-10-20T01:58:56.841-07:00Comments on Living notes from NYC: Let's talk LOVE: Married and living together - a question or a statement?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02552248434911566220noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-51018227520623289422012-05-07T08:56:55.548-07:002012-05-07T08:56:55.548-07:00Financially, I think it depends on where you live ...Financially, I think it depends on where you live and what your lifestyle was like prior to marriage. If you had roommates, etc - then yes, of course, it is more straining. But if two people were living independently by themselves, it's not much of a change , financially, none. Probably , cheaper, even - you are already used to YOUR expenses , your tastes, etc, no need to accommodate for others. And with kids... We'll, I don't think it is feasible with little ones at all - I believe that two parents are very important, if there is a healthy environment , of course. Only when children are grown up and out of the nest, it would be possible and healthy.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02552248434911566220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-30733305355257775512012-05-06T03:35:44.755-07:002012-05-06T03:35:44.755-07:00In principe looks ideal to live apart to keep the ...In principe looks ideal to live apart to keep the relationship special. But there is as well the money problem. This luxe to live apart is for people with good revenues who can afford two residences. And with kids? It might be a bit heavy as organisation...Marienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-69594269654012543022012-05-05T09:22:14.991-07:002012-05-05T09:22:14.991-07:00Communication is everything. So many marriages fai...Communication is everything. So many marriages fail because of the lack of it. I think I am more of a clingy type, although I need my space - I can't do 24/7 together ( though I seem to always be attached to someone - baby, child or husband at this point of my life :) :) ) . I think it is important to not lose oneself in the whole matrimony part :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02552248434911566220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-86839797952904964782012-05-05T09:20:22.758-07:002012-05-05T09:20:22.758-07:00I agree - there isn't one solution, that's...I agree - there isn't one solution, that's for sure. I also agree with not living together for extended time... it seems that most of the friends that I've known that chose to live together before marriage have not gone on with the marriage - which somewhat makes sense. Marriage, while wonderful - can be straining at times. A commitment - hopefully - is another reminder of giving "another chance" , while when there isn't one... psychologically it seems easier to leave. Although, staying together without marriage is also another side, showing the commitment... it's complicated. But interesting.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02552248434911566220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-67161952155670001742012-05-04T07:47:02.656-07:002012-05-04T07:47:02.656-07:00I'm not clingy, nor would I ever live apart fr...I'm not clingy, nor would I ever live apart from my husband. I guess I'm in the middle. We have our own lives and interests, some we share and some we keep separate. But we always come together and communicate and show love. That's the best part of living together.Tiffany Kadanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08887874943048853535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2817618883236985895.post-89410681661233762362012-05-04T07:30:00.893-07:002012-05-04T07:30:00.893-07:00Wow! Very interesting topic! I think there isn'...Wow! Very interesting topic! I think there isn't one solution that works for everyone, however generally speaking I'm not a proponent for living together prior (for an extended period of time) to marriage. Studies seem to show that it doesn't give you a better chance at "staying together" in the long run. That said, it does seem to work for some folks. I guess I'm more of the needy type ~ enjoying the contact, messes, and not-so-attractive moments. Tempting to consider the separation at times.. I can totally understand why that would work. My husband travels a little, so I get a little separation at that time.Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11280782743483018226noreply@blogger.com